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Draft Ethical guidelines on the use of assisted reproductive technology in clinical practice and research submission

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Why are Australians having to travel overseas to utilise gender selection?

My husband and I have 3 beautiful daughters born 2003, 2004 and 2007, we recently lost a son in utero and the whole scenario has been traumatic for all of us. We are terrified if we conceive naturally again we will miss the opportunity to have a son. Our whole family was excited for this arrival as we have only girls in the generation across both my family and my husbands and as much as we would love any child this to us is a great loss of what we were so close to having. 


I cant understand how this makes us "unfair towards females" our 3 daughters are all incredibly uniqe and very much loved for their individuality and we would not change them for the world. We are now at a point where the kids are asking us about having a baby and without the assurance of gender selection we feel we would be too disappointed in the loss of that ideal family completion we felt we were achieving when we were expecting our son. 


I know people have called it selfish and we should be happy with what we have and we are trying to feel that way. I guess we just don't understand why after making a reasonable contribution towards the female population of our children's generation we can't use the technology to get the son we so much desire. We don't care what he grows up wanting to be just as we don't care our youngest daughter wore a tux at our wedding and cuts her hair short. This isn't about selecting a personality this is about the opportunity to experience something we were so close to achieving and without it we will survive but it hurts. The loss is never forgotten. 


Please help us and many other families have the opportunity to balance out our families. Sometimes the parents who want it most are the ones who would cherish that opportunity most. 


Page reviewed: 20 April, 2017